Are you fighting for your life?

I was watching Bridesmaids last night (IIIII’m readyyyyy to paaaaarrrtyyyyy), I couldn’t help but notice the main character Annie and her attitude throughout the film.

(Spoilers below!!)

Annie is in the middle of a life crisis. She lost her boyfriend, her dream business, and now she’s “losing” her best friend who just got engaged. A tragic & depressing tale that we can all relate to on some level. 

Instead of picking herself up by her bootstraps and taking control of her life, Annie lets the bad only get worse. She makes degrading relationship decisions, gets fired for insulting multiple customers, and manages to ruin every wedding event out of jealousy. 

Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE this movie and I think it’s totally hilarious!

But take a sec & see the lesson. How many times do we allow the negative in our lives to dominate and steer our behavior?  Probably more often than we’d like to admit. 

What was your last meltdown about? 

Mine can be as stupid as a tantrum about the outfit I’m wearing that day. 

"Nothing FITS! Nothing looks GOOD! I’m so FAT and UGLY!! I hate everything.” {husband discreetly tip-toes out of the room as I throw everything in my closet on the bed}

How attractive!!!

When we allow negative thoughts to run the show, it affects everyone around us. No one wants to be around the person that always complains and acts a fool. I love the part in this movie where Megan (another bridesmaid) gives Annie a pep talk:

"You know what I find interesting about that Annie, it’s interesting to me that you have no friends, you know why that’s interesting? Here’s a friend standing directly in front of you trying to talk to you and you choose to talk about the fact that you don’t have any friends. No, No I don’t think you want any help you just want to have a little pity party. I think Annie wants a little pity party. You’re an asshole Annie, you’re an asshole, I’m life, is life bothering you Annie? I’m life Annie, I’m life Annie, is life bothering you? Fight back for your life. You better learn to fight for your life. I’m life and I’m going to bite you in the ass. It’s not me, I’m your life. I’m trying to get you to fight for your shitty life. And you won’t do it, you just won’t do it. Stop slapping yourself, I’m your life Annie, I’m your shitty life.”

We all get down and out sometimes, and we all have moments when we're at our worst. To make it in this world, we have to fight for our lives. Throwing a pity party doesn’t solve anything. Learn to fight for it.

Are you fighting for your life? 

Or are you having a pity party for your shitty situation? 

I had my own pity party for years until I decided to do something about it. I decided to take control and chase my dreams. You’ve got 2 weeks left of 2015. Your past doesn’t dictate your future. You are capable of exceeding your own expectations!!

Make a decision for the next year and make a plan. Take control! It’s your life… your potential to make it amazing is bigger than you think.

"I don't associate with people who blame the world for their problems. You are your problem. You are also your solution.” - Bridesmaids

Let's make 2016 the best year of your life! I can't wait to hear what you're plan is. Email it to me if you need some pointers. 


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